Wednesday, October 28, 2009

Elephant Shit

This is an email that I sent to a friend of mine. It precisely expresses what I feel at this point in time (and copy/paste is SO convenient).

Lately - actually ESPECIALLY after the Icke talk - I've been much more aware of day-to-day things. And this joke of a pandemic that is the swine flu, coupled with people such as your singer claiming "we've won!!" 'cos a dark-skinned body is now CEO of the corporation that is America is super frustrating and heart-breaking at the same time.

Yesterday, I was editing an article on Uranium in drinking water, and when I did an image search for "uranium" - with the objective of finding an image of a chunk of uranium - I stumbled across images documenting the physical effects on humans who are exposed to DU (depleted uranium). I wanted to cry. And nobody seems to notice these outrageous crimes against humanity... nobody seems to care...

I've been examining my own short life, and am increasingly thankful for many different things. I listen to Conspirituality during my 40 min drive to and from work, and it keeps David's points fresh in my mind. I know that anger won't solve anything, but the shit that's going down still disturbs me. The blindness, complacency, and acceptance by the masses is maddening. Once you acknowledge that you're capable of so much more than these limitations that have been placed on you and that there is a life outside the cave you've been forced to live in... how can you go back?? Not that I want to.

I know I'm preaching to the chior at this point. I'm frustrated, and somewhat numb to the idiocy & ignorance - and complete lack of interest in the TRUTH - that surfaces everywhere around me: in every industry, every facet, every conversation / discussion / show / blah blah blah.

There is so much to be thankful for - so many good things to focus on, but that doesn't mean ignoring the elephant in the middle of the room. And that pachyderm just took an elephant-sized-shit right on the table.

Check out these links, if you're so inclined:

David Icke:
Conpirituality - the realest hip-hop artists in the game today:

Saturday, October 17, 2009


Got to Phoenix at a sweet 1am, after getting pulled over by CHP in the last 10 mile stretch of Cali for getting clocked going 85mph in a 70 zone.... and drove off with a fix-it ticket for my license plate bulb being burnt out.

My best friend Nikki and I were both wearing our glasses and looked like a pair of nerds. I think it was the glasses that sealed the deal.

After we've jumped on our hotel beds, now it's off to partake in some AWESOME continental breakfast and then to the Orpheum to absorb the incredible knowledge that Mr. David Icke is going to bestow. Hell fucking yeah! I wouldn't want to be anywhere else right now... :)

Saturday, September 12, 2009


...people are people and sometimes we change our minds
but it's killing me to see you go after all this time...

and we know it's never simple - never easy
but you're the only thing I know like the back of my hand

Friday, August 28, 2009

Nothing Gold Can Stay

Nature's first green is gold,
Her hardest hue to hold.
Her early leaf's a flower;
But only so an hour.
Then leaf subsides to leaf.
So Eden sank to grief,
So dawn goes down to day.
Nothing gold can stay.
-Robert Frost

It's an emotional process to acknowledge the passing of a great & beautiful thing. But lately, I've come to realize that letting go doesn't mean pretending like that wonderful occurrence never happened. Letting go is really about appreciating those good times, and the existence of the spectacular connection that used to be there.

There's a lesson I'm supposed to learn here. Maybe it's that I'm supposed to be strong; maybe it's that it's ok to grieve when you've been wounded; maybe it's not even my lesson to learn & my experience is just a by-product of that. Whatever it is, I can say with utmost certainty that no matter how much you care for someone, & no matter if they reciprocate that feeling, you should never let the fear of getting hurt stop you from being the loving person you are capable of being.

I found this quote last week, and it made me pause and think:

"How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours."
- Wayne Dyer

True words right there. So, what does that say about me when I've let myself get taken advantage of for the majority of my young life? I honestly don't know.... but I do know that sometimes a 2nd chance can be all someone needs, that everyone has their own demons & doubts, and that the Universe knows exactly what it is doing.

I'm exhausted from asking myself questions that have no answers. And I feel foolish for letting myself believe that he could honestly care about me, that what I felt was mutual.

So, the current question is: what now? Well, I'll do the only thing I can do: love myself. Being sad gets old fast. Pretending like it never happened is dumb, too. Being resentful and bitter do nothing, and I don't want to go down that path anyway. I forgive him for whatever it is he's done, but now I have to focus my attention back to myself. This is always hard for me - I don't understand it, either. No one else has difficulty being selfish, but I've always been the exact opposite. I've always concentrated on what I can do for others (to avoid having to deal with myself???).

But ya gotta start sometime, right? So I'm going to try. Tonight I completed my 10th yoga class in a row, and I'm on my way to complete 101 consecutive classes. They say that the first 30 days of Bikram yoga is purely physical - it works on your cells, muscle memory, and realigning every part of your body. The next 30 days work thru your emotions and mental blocks, and the final 30 days are more spiritual. They say that at that point in time you're in the zone, and your body is changing, but you don't notice it. Therefore, I've dedicated 101 yoga classes to myself. 10 down, 91 to go!

Time will fix my heart - I won't become jaded or bitter. I always want to be full of light and love, and there's no way I'm ever going to lose that desire, no matter what feelings I may have for another, and no matter if they return it or not.

God, I'm such a girl right now....

Monday, August 3, 2009


So I'm trying to be cool and give him space, but I can't help but notice the change...the lack of interest.

The only thing in life I'm responsible for is myself - and I figure if I keep myself busy, then maybe I won't pick up on how phone calls are fewer and further communication has decreased so drastically since different things are from only a few months ago.


Maybe I just need to accept it and forget it. If he can't come out and say it with words, he damn sure has said it with actions (or lack thereof). It's just that rejection on any level is never pleasant. I don't want a ring or a mortgage for christ's sake - just affirmation of an interest and an effort to be with me - I just want to feel special. I thought I was worth that much. Now I just feel like "that girl" - the one who was stupid enough to think there was a genuine connection there when it's becoming more and more apparent that even if it was there, it's not anymore.

Whatever is wrong, I know it's not me, but that doesn't make it an easier pill to swallow.
I'm not trying to force it, either. Things will work out exactly as they're supposed to...

I'm a good girl, dammit!! I'm a one of a kind, and I know it. I'm a sweet soul, I'm laid back, low-maintenance, considerate, accepting, understanding, confident, smart, funny, and pretty. I don't make demands or give ultimatums, I don't sleep around, I get along with his friends and family, and I'm not jealous. In fact, I've never had a problem with his occupation. I know he has to travel, I know what his job entails, and it's fine - I've never wanted to change him at all because I like him just the way he is.

And I deserve someone who not only recognizes that I'm a cool chick, but who will make an effort every now and again. I'm a strong and unique woman, and I won't settle for less than what I deserve. (He used to make an effort...that's another fact I keep repeating to myself.)

It just sucks to endure so many shitty experiences in the past, and then to come so close to having such a wonderful thing with someone I could truly count as an equal, only to have it yanked away when you finally let yourself believe in it. I was guarded for over a year, and as soon as I let that guard down and let someone in, that's the about the time shit went south. And what a transition to make - from being so extremely close to maybe a phone call once a week...if I'm lucky.

Oh, Universe...what a sense of humor you have!

Don't think it's all "poor me" or "sad Risa." It's not like's just a super frustrating and confusing situation. And being the optimist that I am, I know that if he wanted to be rid of me completely he wouldn't call at all. But if I'm going to play Devil's Advocate, I also know that if he was really interested, he'd call more often - maybe even make a trip to SD for a day or two.

No matter though. This country girl will keep on keepin' on. I'm not afraid of being alone - I've never been the girl who needed a guy to make everything alright, and I'm damn sure not going to start now. Throughout it all, I will always have me, and I'm proud of the person I am - I can't wait to see the person I will become. Nothing's going to hold me back or make me jaded. I am my own light, and if I'm going to see where my path is going, I need to shine as brightly as I can!

Tuesday, July 21, 2009

Is this for real?

Just got home from a modeling agency audition in Corona. And I got it.


A month ago I was a wreck: crying, worrying about money, not able to pay the bills, thinking I'd have to resign my endeavors on the west coast for good and move in with one of my family members. But now...damn! In the past week I've started my new full time job in Carlsbad, and now I'm a signed model.


Modeling has never been a life-long dream of mine. In fact, what I really wanted to pursue when I moved out here was acting, but modeling was suggested to me quite often. "You have gorgeous eyes, you should be a model." "You're really beautiful. Are you a model? Why not?" So I thought I'd give it a shot and see where it takes me. If there was any money to be made or anything to be gained from modeling, then it might be worth a shot, right? Then I realized how competitive both industries are. And since I've never had a free ride, free rent, or free food, I've had to work to pay my dues, which leaves very little time for networking and a small window of a few hours each day/evening that I'd be available for a modeling gig or a play/movie rehearsal. The people who make it big in modeling or acting have the time to dedicate open days and weeks to their art - and a flexible schedule to boot. I've had neither, but lately I've been pressing ahead in the modeling field, using Model Mayhem / Craigslist / MySpace to apply for work. And now I'm signed??? Never in my dizziest daydreams could I have foreseen this...

Now I've got a job & an agency - my money problems will clear up fast. And once my debt is absolved (all loans public and private), I've got big plans for this little girl!!
  • get a road bicycle to go with my mountain bike
  • save up $$$ for Bikram Yoga teacher training. After I'm a certified instructor, I want to get a job at a local studio to start. My ultimate goal is to have my own studio one day, and I want to be good enough so that I can guest teach at studios around the world when I travel for vacation.
  • get a motorcycle and learn how to ride it
  • move to Oregon and buy a truck (Tacoma, 4WD). I'm also going to get a dog and name her Gypsy.
  • read all the books that have been in my queue for years
  • go hiking and camping more often
  • hone my survival skills
  • finish teaching myself HTML/CSS/XHTML coding, and once I master that then I'll start teaching myself PHP & Pearl. With those skillz, I can start marketing myself as contract UI Developer & an Email Marketing Specialist. Then I can get some contract work and (cha-CHING!!) more money.
  • play the stock market (after much analysis & research - both of which I'm currently doing)
  • buy a ranch house/cabin, some land, and horses, and chickens. I've got even more plans for the land/ranch once I get it: a nice barn & tack room, a garden, a chicken coop, and maybe a prairie hay or alfalfa field....
There you have it, Internet - my hopes and dreams in a few bullet points. My plans & goals in life right at this moment. And you know what? I can TOTALLY accomplish all of it.

So, to sum up, there's been good things all around!! But my heart is still confused. I have a situation that is unique, to say the least. I don't know how to proceed with it - but there are some undeniable truths I do know for a fact. To be clear, this is more for me than for anyone else who happens to read this - I think I just need to actually write it out to really make it mean what it does. I have never wanted to change someone because I would NEVER want someone to ask me to be anyone other than myself. As Dr. Suess said, "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." I think everyone should be who they are - be true to yourself! - because I'm always going to be me, and I won't conform to anyone's 'idea' of me. Ever. With that in mind, it's correct to say that I am who I am and I feel what I feel - I can't control that, I can't shut my emotions on or off on a whim.

Another bit of information I have to keep telling myself over and over and over again is that he can't miss me if I'm not gone. If I'm always available and always making an effort to someone who's not, how is that fair? Plain and simple: It's not. And if someone is going to miss me, they can't do it when I'm still calling or texting or emailing. I've been making the effort for too long now - and I'm not stupid - I can take a hint. He knows my number - he knows how to get ahold of me....and if he misses me, then he'll do something about it.

No matter what happens with this guy, or any other guy for that matter, I know that the only constant in my life is that I am me and I have a core of truth within myself & a path to walk. I will have the courage and the heart, the centered-ness, to follow my own path, to be who I am and love being who I am, no matter what. I will shine out and show the universe who I am, so that people who are looking for someone exactly like me can find me. I won't allow setbacks or even major betrayals to dampen my spirit. I am the center of my own life, and I am exactly as I need to be right now. I will always *always* shine my own light and walk my own path - and I will allow others to do the same.

Sunday, July 19, 2009

I Wanna Hold Your Hand...

I Want To Hold Your Hand - All You Need Is Love
...The Beatles had the right idea...

I'm sure we can call agree that there is not enough Love in the world. Fear and Panic and Doubt seem to be the prominent emotions in society now-a-days. I myself have fallen victim to the latter emotions on more than one occasion. But once you find Love again, life is so much better in every aspect, and you can literally feel the Light conquering the Dark emotions.

We all know how much damage an insult or a malicious-filled-name can inflict. But think of how much a genuine compliment has lifted your spirits or flattered your soul??? There's enough negativity in this world today - there are too many people who thrive off misery and pain. We need to all focus on putting more Light and goodness into the world. When you make someone else feel better, it makes you feel better! And I really believe that it helps generate positive energy and puts good karma out into the universe.

Love isn't sexual. Love isn't about wanting to fuck someone. That's lust - that's attraction. Love is about goodness and kindness and acceptance and appreciation of life - and of finding the Good in other people.

To say that I love someone doesn't mean I want to marry them. I have a Love for myself, and for my friends, and for the world and humanity. If I were to say that I loved a guy, it's automatically assumed that I want a relationship with him or am looking to make him a life partner. I love plenty of men, and I have no intention of being intimate with any of them. Many of my friends are guys, and I love all of my friends. I love the men in my family the same way as I love the women in my life.

I do believe that there is a special kind of Love between two people, but what I'm trying to emphasize is that there is MORE than that one kind of popularized Love in the world, and we seem to have forgotten this.

Even if we are discussing that kind of Love, so many people think that sex = Love. Love is something much more fantastic than fornication. The Beatles said it best: Love is about wanting to hold your be a friend and a confidant to another human be an emotional support and appreciating the person's faults.

One of my heroes, David Icke, once said during a talk I heard him give: "Love is not something you're in - it's something you are."
How true...

While I cannot dictate to another person how they should live their life, I know that I should be Love, and not worry about "finding" it - because All You Need Is Love...and the world needs it now, more than ever.

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

Back in Cali - Missing Oregon

Now I'm back in San Diego from Oregon, and I already miss it so much. I want the mountains and the woods and the hiking right outside my door. I wasn't turned off by the weather at all, and I loved the vibe of the northwest. I'm already deciding between getting a truck or an SUV when I move up there! I can truly say that my heart is in Oregon.

The scenery was truly amazing and so gorgeous. Here's a taste of the beauty of Oregon:

Multnomah Falls

View of the Columbia River from the trail at Multnomah Falls

Rose Garden


When I left Portland, I took the Sunset Highway west to the coast and the historic 101 Highway. I'm so glad I did!! The Oregon coastline is another world compared to SoCal:

And I haven't even begun to really explore the state! I'm so glad I took this trip - I now have a visual of where I'll be, and that's added motivation to eliminate my debt and save those dollars. And the best part is that I'll be doing it all by myself - I won't have to ask for handouts or be a burden to anyone else. I know that 'pride goeth before a fall' but I pride myself in being self-reliant and independent. It makes me feel good about myself.

Tomorrow I start my new job, and I'm feeling pretty optimistic about it - things will work out for the best!

As the wonderful Robert Nestor Marley said: every little thing is gonna be alright.

Wednesday, July 8, 2009

Flutter By

I saw a butterfly today while I was walking Courtney's dog, Keani. I honestly can't remember the last time I saw a butterfly... It was so pure and right to see one, I can't think of a better way to describe it. It also sparked some feeling inside of me - a feeling of "home" and "right-ness." Another crazy & unexpected confirmation that I'm not physically living where I need to be right now.

On a related note: I LOVE OREGON!!! It's so wilderness-y. And even though Portland's a city I don't think of it in that way. I think of it more like a big town than a city. It really has that "town" feel to it. And no one's in a rush like they are in Cali. The vibe reminds me of home.

Monday, after the mail came, I deposited my checks and got on the road. I really needed this trip - I needed to do something besides sit at home and look for jobs and worry about $$. I'm so glad I did! The drive was long, but the scenery was gorgeous. I loved the farmlands I got to pass: cows, horses, fields of sunflowers, orchards for miles. This is the first time I've been north of LA, and I had no idea what to expect.

Monday night I stopped in San Jose at the Lindo's. They were so gracious and hospitable, and Baby J even warmed up to me after a while. I hadn't seen her since they left SD about a year and a half ago, so she didn't know what to think of me!

Tuesday was spent driving up the 5 thru NorCal. I must say that the last 30-50 miles of California was my favorite part. I could see myself in that area very easily. I really liked the mountains and undeveloped land. When I crossed the state border, I wanted to snap a picture of the "Welcome to Oregon" sign, but there was tons of road construction right there, and I think a truck or machine or crew was blocking it. Oh well. Oregon showed me more mountains and soooo many trees! I pulled off the road in Eugene to fill gas, and it was a full-service station. I've never been to a full-service station in my life - not once. So, this was a new experience for me - and the guy was so nice. Just an honest, down-to-earth guy. I don't know if it would've been the same in Cali.

I got to Courtney's house late last night, and let myself in while she was at work. Her place is just adorable! The Columbia River is right outside her balcony, and her apartment is put together so cute! A full kitchen, a washer & dryer, a fireplace, a balcony, lots of space... She even has a dog & a cat. I would love to get a place like this. When she did come home from work, we met for the first time. She's a very cool girl, and enjoys the outdoors too. In fact, she just got back from a kayaking trip. And she was telling me how there's always something to do around here, no matter what you're into. It was a proper welcome, I must say.

View from Courtney's balcony: the I-5 bridge over the Columbia river connecting Oregon to Washington

Today I went for a job interview at a call center - a job I know I've got, but it won't pay enough for me to justify relocating myself right now. I drove around the city and fell in love with all the bridges. I want to drive over all of them! Tomorrow I'm going to take myself on a hike and snap a few pictures too. I haven't been downtown yet, so I want to do that later in the day. And 4 different people have told me that I have to try VooDoo's Donuts. Apparently they're famous.

Ironically, after the call center interview, I find that the company in Carlsbad wants to offer me a position. I'm so stoked to finally have a job again!!! I'll be making more money than I was when I got laid off, and I'll basically be my own boss. The commute is kind of a long way, but I think it will be worth it. And I'm still going to keep looking for jobs here in Portland, just so I can hopefully find one sooner than later and actually PLAN a move up here, instead of the real haphazard "I just need to get out of Cali" move. And Now that I'll be working, I can settle some debts and save some $$$ to make this a reality!

I'm also hoping that I'll be able to see Mark for a few minutes while I'm up here, since it's not often that I'm in Oregon. But I know he's got plans in eastern Oregon right now, and honestly, I didn't make this trip for him. I didn't make this trip for anyone but me. That's right - Risa did something selfish! After years of putting others' feelings before my own, I finally realize that I need to do for ME and that worrying about anyone else is silly, because things will work out exactly as they should. They always do.

I just noticed the sun is out and the clouds have broken up. I'm going back outside to enjoy the rest of my Oregon day. More later!

Thursday, July 2, 2009

Create Your Own Reality

When we ask for strength, the universe sends us difficulties to make us stronger.

How true, right? Strength doesn't come from push-ups and crunches. Real strength comes from experiences. That's what life is all about: experiences.

I can feel that I'm ready for that next big experience in this life. When I moved to California, it was primarily for a boy. I learned a lot from that relationship, and when it ended (precisely as my family and friends knew it would), it was for the best. I still don't know exactly what I want in a relationship, or if I even want one for that matter, but I do know exactly what I DON'T want - which is a wonderful place to start in my opinion.

Life has a way of teaching us valuable lessons - and if we miss it the first time, the universe is obliged to put us thru those trials and tribulations again and again until we DO get it.

Being 1,500 miles away from everything and everyone I grew up around was a trip. Being alone and that far away from all I knew and loved was even trippier. And yet, I'm still here. Here I am - standing tall - stronger than I was - wiser than most people my age are - and ready for that next challenge.

Did I say challenge??? Lord, did I ever get what I asked for...

San Diego has been good for me. I took what could've been a horrible experience, and turned it into a good one. I've shown myself that I only need to be dependent on myself to get by, but in my time here I've found some extremely wonderful people and have created a great number of solid friendships. I've discovered/acknowledged my own spirituality and started to nurture it in order to one day obtain enlightenment. While in California, I've learned so much about myself, and grown to love myself that much more (because let's face it - I'm kind of awesome).

As cool as my time in California has been, I'll always be a country girl at heart. In fact, when I moved out here, I knew I wouldn't live here forever. I'm glad I moved to California, even if it was originally for the wrong reason, but I'm ready for a change once again. Really, I think I was ready about a year ago, but it's so hard to save money out here, especially when you're underpaid. Now that I'm out of work, and bills are piling up, and the state of California is on the verge of collapsing, I'm starting to think the universe is trying to tell me something...

Leaving San Diego will be bittersweet for me. While I've never had the intention making CA my permanent home, I kind of feel like I haven't experienced everything that I wanted to do here. I haven't seen all the sights, I haven't really explored the whole city. But maybe that's for the best. I'm sure I'll come back and visit, just like I still go back and visit Kansas.

Portland, Oregon has been my next destination for over 2 years now. Most people question my choice: "Why Portland? It rains there - it snows there - it's still a city." To which I respond: "Why not? I know - I know - I know."

Yes it rains there, but guess what: it rains in Kansas too.
Yes it snows there, but not as much as Minnesota. And (surprise) it snows in Kansas too.
Yes it's still a city, but it's closer to the wilderness than San Diego is. And I NEED the outdoors! I'm a country's just who I am. I survived the Kansas weather for 21 years just fine: blizzards, droughts, floods, triple-digit summer heat, humidity, -32 below zero days... I'm sure some rain and snow in another state won't bother me in the least.

I've been job-hunting for a month now, and I'm still broke & jobless. I've searched for jobs in San Diego, and I've also been looking in Portland. Would you believe the Portland jobs are responding back to me faster than the SoCal jobs? It shocked me too.

So, in the next few days I'll start driving north - from SD to Oregon. I've got a job interview on Tues, hopefully another one on Wed, and a photoshoot one of those days. I'll get to scope out my new home, and maybe get a good hike and a camping trip in. On the way back, I'll drive the 101 like I've always wanted. And I'll be doing it alone - with my awesome self.

I want to be in Oregon by October - that will be my birthday present to myself. In the meantime, I'm going to create my own reality. I'm going to visualize myself getting a great job in Oregon, finding a cheap place to live, and moving up there in the next few months. I'm going to think positive, and put that energy out into the universe. I'm only responsible for myself, and right now the best thing for me is to get out of California.

Money is my biggest obstacle right now, but if I believe that it will all work out, then it will. Perhaps one of these jobs will offer me relocation assistance! And my step-dad said he will come out with the truck to help me pack up my stuff and move up there, which is basically a free moving service. I'm such a blessed lil' girl have such wonderful people in my life. And who knows? Maybe a San Diego job will hit me back and hire me on - then I can get on my feet financially, and get some $$$ saved up for a deposit and 1st month's rent!

Instead of waiting on someone to make it all better, or for some miracle to work out, I'm going to create my own own Happy Ending. However, according to Schmendrick the Magician: "There are no happy endings, because nothing ends."

If I believe it will happen, then it will.
If I'm convinced I will fail, then I will.
Whatever I visualize happening will come to pass, because I'm directly connected to the rest of the universe thru my own consciousness, just like every other person on this planet.

Visualize your own reality, and you'll be amazed at what you can accomplish!!!

Saturday, June 20, 2009

The Road Not Taken

As I currently face a crossroad in my life, I find comfort in this classic piece of poetry.

by Robert Frost

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that, the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
two roads diverged in a wood, and I --
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

Some information presented itself to me this morning, and with that information I'm faced with a decision. Yesterday I realized I've been avoiding dealing with the reality of my situation because things aren't going the way that I would like them to go right now.

Rather than focus on all the negativity, I really need to focus on things I can control, pick one of the options that are before me, and stick with it.

Sunday, June 14, 2009


Yesterday some friends and I hopped in the car and drove east to Cleveland National Forest for a camping trip. This little trip reminded me, yet again, that I don't belong in a concrete jungle. I need to see the stars at night, breathe fresh air, and enjoy open spaces.

This trip was also the maiden voyage of my tent and sleeping bag - I'm proud to say they performed very well! One day I want to drive north up PCH, and I was planning to just take my tent and sleeping bag instead of having to pay for hotel rooms every night. I think this will work out quite nicely.

After we pitched our tents and gathered some firewood, we went for a hike on Lightning Trail. This took us to through the woods and spit us out on the top of a hill. The view was amazing! We were looking down upon the most beautiful little meadow, and we could see the rest of the forest stretching out before us. There was also a crazy-looking dome behind a security fence. Being the trouble-maker I am, I hopped the fence - barbed wire and all. Dan eventually followed suit, and tried to pick the lock on the door. I was hoping the he would succeed because I wanted to walk down the stairs and see what secrets the alien dome held, even though it was probably something completely normal. Like a water holding tank.

But, Dan wasn't able to trip up the security pin, so we scaled the fence a second time and came back down the mountain.

Later we went on a quest to find the unbelievably beautiful meadow we saw from on high. And find it we did! It was serenity in the purest form. After a bit of a walk along a trail, I split off from the group and stepped off the beaten path. Then I laid down in the grass, stared at the sky, and absorbed the soothing sounds and smells of nature: the wind in the trees & the tall grass; the birds overhead; the clean, fresh air; the aroma of pine. I wish I could experience that every day when I step out of my door.
This amazing and remarkable day eventually came to close. Dan and I lit a fire (finally!) and heated Sally's awesome Campfire Beans, and the drinking ensued. It was a great close to a great day. Oh - until I woke up sobbing in pain because my tooth was throbbing. I woke up my camping buddies, and probably a neighboring campsite. Sally and Alycia rounded up some asprin, and with the left-over whiskey I managed to numb my gums. What great timing, huh? Me with no job and no dental insurance.

But things will get better - a welcome turn of events will occur soon - and until then I know I can tough it out. I'm wondering if this chain of events is a sign for me to make a change in my life. Maybe the economy going to shit and me losing my job is the universe's way of telling me to get out of California? I mean, I've been considering it for some time now. Portland is my first choice, but now I'm thinking more family-oriented moves. Minnesota. Texas. Kentucky. Portland would be more for me - that move would be me proving to myself I can take care of myself and I don't need to depend on others.

Maybe I'm just not ready for that. 24 yrs old is still pretty young - I just thought I'd be in a different place by now. Still, I guess life never gives us what we expect, does it? I wonder what tomorrow will show me...

I wonder what I'll learn about my own happiness. :)

Sunday, June 7, 2009

The Economy = CRAPFEST

The universe always seems to throw a curveball when I need it the least. I'm characteristically very happy and chipper - a real "glass is half full" kind of perspective. But lately, I'm finding it more and more difficult to keep that attitude and outlook, and this is when I need it the most.

Last Friday I got laid off, and since then I've been combing thru online postings looking for jobs: desk jobs, modeling jobs, restaurant jobs...anything really. I hope something pulls through soon. This really couldn't have happened at a worse time. Not only do I not have any savings, but if I don't find some source of income soon, I won't be able to pay rent next month. Lately, I've been considering jobs I never would've bothered with before - like selling my eggs. My freaking eggs!!! Although it would be a quick way to make about $10 Gs, I can't quite bring myself to hand my DNA over to other people. It's just too weird of a concept for me to really grasp right now. I mean, it's noble to help out a couple that desperately want a baby, but I can't quite talk myself into it. (And I secretly think that the world couldn't handle more than one of me at this time.)

This job-hunting is all very frustrating, but I know that I'm not the only one struggling right now, and I also know things really aren't that bad for me. I have a great circle of friends who are very supportive and family members in several states that would take me in at a moment's notice.

Besides, I know that every thing happens for a reason, and I really believe that everything will work out exactly as it should. I just wish it would all fall into place a little faster. I'm trying not to get discouraged, but it's kind of a shitty situation. Seems I'm in some kind of funk, and I don't like it. I don't like not being able to take care of myself - I don't like feeling sorry for myself.

Yesterday I had to remind myself that there are still a few things within my control, such as my mood and my efforts, so it's not a completely hopeless situation. Plus, I've always said that positive thoughts manifest themselves into positive energy & events. How big of a hypocrite would I be if I didn't take my own advice? Huge.

Also on my list of things-that-I-hope-pull-through is Lingerie Football. I'm hoping that the San Diego Seduction will hit me back and give me a chance to try-out. I used to play full tackle football with the guys, so I know I could take the hits and deliver some neck-poppers myself. The only thing I'm worried about is that I won't be gorgeous enough to make it. I'm girl-next-door-pretty; not a bombshell by any means. But fingers crossed!!

Friday I went hiking to the Three Sisters waterfalls near Julian to do a photoshoot. I had a great time, but the water was so cold! I'm expecting the photos to come back in about a week. Erik, the photographer at the falls, was also a photographer at a corset shoot I did last weekend and he gave me a CD with the pics he took.

This corset was cinched up so tightly, that I could hardly breathe! I don't know how women survived 100 years ago. They told me that the last model to wear this corset passed out, and when I was still conscious after 25 minutes, they said I was a trooper. Damn straight!

Corset Shoot

I created a page on Facebook to post my modeling pics until I get my website up and running. You can check them out here:

P.S. The Beatles' music is timeless.

Friday, May 29, 2009

Just a thought...

In some parts of the world hundreds and thousands of people die every day from starvation.

In other parts of the world there are Eating Competitions.

Does this make any sense at all???

Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Memorial Day

Monday a last-minute invite was extended my way to attend a BBQ with some country folks I haven't seen or spent time with in almost a year. Everyone at this little get-together was either active-duty military, in the reserves, or had been discharged. I think I was 1 of 3 who isn't serving in the armed forces, but I was for sure the only one there who wasn't tied to the military at all since I'm not a military girlfriend.

Before the steaks and potatoes were done, we all toasted Memorial Day, and everyone had the chance to speak their piece. Jack opened the toast, and thanked everyone for coming. He thanked the men and women who put their country ahead of themselves and for enlisting to protect their friends and family. Some other guys spoke up and there was a definite bond in the room during these individual speeches. A bond I'm well aware that I didn't share.

It was unique to be in the middle of the crowd, and yet also on the outside looking in.

Personally, I'm very thankful for these people and their sacrifices. Years ago I was faced with the opportunity to join the military, and I couldn't do it. After scoring pretty high on the ASVAB, the Army said they wanted to teach me Russian and put me in Special Ops. But I had a major issue with turning my life over to a faceless entity that I didn't trust.

I fully support the troops - I commend each man and woman for enduring the experiences they do, for sacrificing their will, personal time, and sometimes their lives to serve the greater good. However, I do NOT support the war. I believe that we were lead into this war by liars and those who are serving hidden agendas. The who's and how's and why's aren't really important, and pointing fingers never solves a problem. Isn't it enough to simply say "war is bad"?

Call me crazy, but I hope and pray for a world where we won't have war. I yearn for a time when we can all be adults, embrace our similarities & accept our differences, and respect every other life form on this planet by letting them live out their own existence.

Still, I'm fully aware that I have never traveled to the Middle East. I cannot begin to fathom what an ordinary day is like over there, for civilians and military alike. Therefore, I know to shoot off my mouth and my (probably uninformed) opinion is immature, foolish, and wrong.

At one point in the evening, I found myself in a deep conversation with a young intoxicated Marine. And I guess his girlfriend too? She kept coming over to throw her arms around him or state that she was his girlfriend, which kind of amused me, since I was only talking with the kid, and not humping his leg.

We found common ground on the no-war issue. He also thinks this war is a sham, but he told me that his opinion doesn't matter; he can't tell the higher-ups what to do, he just waits for orders. And yet, even though he didn't agree with the war and believes it was started under false pretenses, he absolutely cannot wait to get shipped out. Not to kill Iraqis or anything like that, but to help his comrades who are also forced into fighting someone else's fight. I admire that commitment to other human beings' life, and at the same time cannot fully understand blindly following orders.

Needless to say, I'm glad that I'm not thrust into the middle of such a conundrum.

My appreciation goes out to all the men and women who serve in the United States Armed Forces, and my gratitude towards the goodness in humanity for keeping the hope of a world without war alive.

Saturday, May 23, 2009

a model, a bride - now for beer

Today I was a model. I thought I had two shoots lined up but the second one never confirmed, which kind of bummed me out since that was the one that would have paid money. But, I think that we got some really great shots in this morning.

Theresa, a local make-up artist, fixed my hair and got me all dolled up. I wore fake eyelashes for the first time in my life! I showed up at 9.30am and didn't get home until 1pm - so it was a long morning. She provided a wedding dress (which fit a little snug) and 2 photographers. The guys shared a few sneak peeks with me, and they were pretty sweet. I'm so anxious to see how they all turned out!!!

Little girls are fascinated with brides, it seems. We encountered a few people and a few kids today, and they were all filled with compliments. They're so cute, and yet they tell me I'm beautiful. It brings a smile to my face to come across admiration and kindness. Theresa kept asking me "did you hear that?" when someone would walk by. Apparently they were complimenting me and I was completely oblivious. This seems to happen to me frequently. I had to chuckle to myself.

I also contemplated the idea of a wedding. I think (and this is my humble opinion) that if you've found someone you truely love who loves you in return, then it's great idea. There is love out there, and those who find it are very blessed indeed. My sis is one of those people. However, already in my young life I've seen people tie the knot for all the wrong reasons. I've met quite a few ladies who think that at age X, you're supposed to be married with a house and kids, and if you're not then you're some kind of unspeakable failure. I've never found the logic in this. If all you really crave is the focus of "oh! she's the bride" and everyone fussing over you and congratulating you, I think it wise to admit you just might be a selfish person and just throw a ginormous party soley for the purpose of being the center of attention. There's no reason to drag legality and other people's lives into the mix. And there's no shame in being honest, either. Parties are cheaper than divorces anyway.

My apologies if I just shit all over your dreams.

After I got home, I was still in a "picture-taking-mode" so I snapped a few vanity shots of myself. Who doesn't do this from time to time? Besides, I had professional quality make-up which I couldn't do myself, and fake eye-lashes to boot!

Now I think I'll close day 1 of my 3-day weekend with a nice home-cooked meal and some geeky computer activities...and maybe a movie. The roommate's in Arizona, so I've got the place to myself! Perhaps I'll run to the store for some beers, first...
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Monday, May 18, 2009

Come on down to Cleveland town, everyone

I found some hastily made Cleveland Tourism videos.
Makes me wonder why I've never visited Cleveland...

And the 2nd Attempt: "buy a house for the price of a VCR"

Saturday, May 16, 2009

Oh, Saturday - my Saturday

Earlier this week I thought it would be a grand idea to start a blog. This is a relatively new line of thinking for me. I've always been in the frame of mind that I have nothing noteworthy to add to the spew of stuff and ideas and blogs and things that are already filling the web.

But, after recently reading the blog of a man I admire, I realized that if I decided to start one I wouldn't be obligated to post menial and boring crap everyday. I could bide my time until I had a wonderous idea or train of thought and then share it with the people of the internet.

Granted, this first post is basically menial and pointless in and of itself, but I think the next one will be much better and have a little more "meat" to it, so to speak.

Stay tuned...